Dearest followers, I must regretfully inform you that I will not be here this weekend to provide sunshine and delight. My husband and I are attending a family weenie roast in O-H-I-O. Enjoy your weekend, I know we will!
I'm 16 and I'm a senior in HS & have been dating my boyfriend (college freshman) for almost a year &it feels like nothing, I just want 10 more years. Its like every time I doubt us being together for a long time it fades away and turns into something even more beautiful. I know it's all hormones and whatever but how did you survive everything? Through college/medschool(for me only)& whatever? It seems so close but so far until we can truly start a life married together... I'm excited but afraid!
Hello my dear. I remember everything you are feeling. 16 is young to be in a long distance relationship with a college student, but love is love and the pain is all the same! I am sure you have heard that you are just a hormonal teenager, but that is not all that you are. What is about to happen is very long winded, but its the best advice I can give!
There are three things you will need (well more, but 3 main things) to get through this. Number 1: A support system. I don’t know what type of belief system you follow, but having Christ as my rock was the number one reason I could make it. Because of Him, I joined a group on campus and made some amazing friends who were all my support system in the flesh. They were people that could tell me honestly when I was being unreasonable and gave me sound advice. You DO NOT want friends who just agree with you at all times and gossip about how large an idiot your boyfriend is (which, lets be honest, men are often).
Number 2: Trust. If you don’t have trust that you are absolutely in trouble. You cannot nag him about whether or not he met hot girls at frat parties and he really should never be a jealous lunatic about your guy friends. My husband had many girl friends in college that he did homework with and hung out with and I had to trust him fully that he loved only me and was not interested in those girls. Remember- it is a GOOD thing when he is honest and tells you that his girl friends are pretty! Acknowledgment is good, acting on it is bad.
Number 3: Communication is key. If you cannot find time to talk each day and say how you feel up front, your life is going to be so hard. Joe and I learned quickly that we could never get off the phone angry because it would just carry into the next day and never get resolved. If you think a man can’t read your mind in person, trust me, they have NO idea what you are thinking when they can only hear your voice. You don’t have the privilege of body language or facial expression, so you can’t expect either person to guess how you are feeling. Both of you need to speak your mind and talk it out, no matter how much you want to avoid things.
So, that is the big stuff. I am SO sorry it is so long, but you just have to hold on for the ride! Still go out, still have fun with your friends, do all the things people your age do and remember that he should be able to go out as well. It is going to ache and make you cry more than you can possibly imagine, but can I just say that the happy tears FAR outweigh the sad ones. Cherish every moment with him and that feeling of excitement will never go away! You are lucky to be in this long distance deal because you will always be excited to see each other! My husband and I still are so excited to see each other at the end of the day because we know how much it hurts to be apart. Blessings to you and your love! :)
P.S. Our marriage is the best gift I could be given in my life and it has left me completely content. IT IS WORTH IT. Beat the odds.
Calling all you chili lovers! Sorry this took me so long, my lovely Victoria! Let me know how yours turns out!
What you need:
4-5 Stalks of celery (Diced) 2lbs of Jimmy Dean Sausage (I use turkey sausage, but if you don’t mind the calories, Jimmy Dean adds more flavor.) 1 Onion (Diced- I use Vidalia) 1 Green Pepper (Diced) 2 Cans Diced Green Chilies 2 Cans Dark Red Kidney Beans 2 Cans Diced Tomatoes 2/3 Cup Brown Sugar (If you aren’t used to sweet chili, use less) 2-3 Cans Tomato Paste Chili Powder
Sautee vegetables in butter until soft, cook hamburger. After cooked, place vegetables, hamburger, beans, diced chilies, and diced tomatoes into pot and fill with water just above the food. Insert chili powder to taste, let simmer for ½ hour. Then, insert tomato paste and brown sugar. Let cook for few hours and serve!
Let me know how it turns out for you guys! I hope you enjoy it as much as my family and I do!